Homemaking on a budget
I’m sitting on the kitchen counter, trying to understand if I heard my friend correctly. She’s wondering if she’s ready for marriage. Having been married for a few years myself, I know that the main challenge comes after the marriage and whatever is making her doubt her willingness to marry was probably something dramatic she had blown out of proportion.
The problem turned out to be that her boo who had made her believe food was not a priority to him when they were dating, now expected her to cook three times a day. She was not used to this life, she lamented. I, good friend that I am, struggled to keep a straight face. I didn’t think it was the right time or situation to tell her if she didn’t do it for him, she’d be doing it for her kids soon enough.
Once upon a time, it was me..
That was not the only reason I kept my laugh at bay, the bigger reason perhaps, was that I remembered when i was the one doing the lamenting. It was shortly after we had come back from our honeymoon, the room service and restaurant menus still fresh on my mind. When the shocker came, I was bewildered. Sitting snugly in his arms, watching a movie, Hubby asks what was for dinner. New wifey sitting pretty in his arms asked what he would like to have, patting herself on the back for being so caring and considerate. He did not see it like that, and asked me to just bring whatever I had.
In hindsight, it was a silly thing to get upset over, but who wants to tell a new wife what’s silly to get upset over? I categorically pointed out to him that if he was at a restaurant, he wouldn’t tell them to just bring anything, he would tell them what he wanted to which the man had replied ‘You are not a restaurant.’ The things that upset a new wife are nothing to one who has been around for a while, but at the time, they are very valid. He had a point, he was thinking it was my kitchen and he’d be fine with whatever I could whip out but i was too focused on how he was leaving all the responsibility of thinking up what to cook to me.
I’m not cut out for stress please
A few day and long bouts of pouting and silent treatment later, I finally accepted that I was being ridiculous and if i would infact stop being so spoilt, I would realise that he was really trying to make things convenient for me. I soon realised that choosing what to eat was the least of my problems. Going to the market, planning what we would eat since by some silent arrangement, i was in charge of food, making sure that we didn’t run out before our next pay check was all on me. That made a sister dizzy. But as with all challenges that we are faced with, I had to find a way to deal with it.
*Puts on my ‘dealing with it’ boots!
So I’m going to share with you what i told my newly married friend lamenting in my kitchen, and no, the solution was not the obvious one to hire a chef lol.
Homemaking on a budget
Make a list of the things you really need – Most millennial women hacks start with making a list. Could it be because it is the most effective way to get on your way to getting things done? Set out your food priorities first so that if you have any money left after you buy these, then you can move to wants. The risk of not making a list is that you will comeback from the market and discover that you left out all the important bits.
Buy in bulk – This is a valuable move for non perishables like rice, pasta, oil, and cleaning equipment. Spread them out over months so that you don’t have to buy them all at once. For example, rice in december, oil i january, pasta in february, etc. It’ll be easier on your pocket if everything didn’t finish at the same time.
The absolute nightmare of everything getting finished at once!
Get a group of women who you can buy in bulk with – As an old hand, I will tell you for a fact that retail prices will make you weep especially if you hear what they cost in bulk. But the thing is, you may not be able to buy in bulk alone die to cost. That’s why a lot of women buy in groups and share among themselves to minimise cost. Wisdom right? Make sure you do this with people you can trust, who wouldn’t mind being held accountable. You got this. Homemaking on a budget is coming together, isn’t it?
Work with a menu – This is the homemaker’s secret weapon. With whatever is in your pantry, create a menu for a week or two. This is such a big deal because it not only saves you time and energy trying to think up meals within the week, it also serves as a guide for what you are capable of making instead of having to choose a meal only to find out you do not have the sufficient ingredients. Homemaking on a budget is not so hard after all!
Bonus tip – If you are shopping for vegetables in the open market, go for the unwashed ones. They last longer because water makes vegetables rot a lot faster.
There you have it, the Millennial homemaker’s secret hacks to homemaking on a budget. If you have any other tips, share with us in the comments. We need all the help we can get.
Until next time,